“You can do anything, but not everything.” – David Allen
Learning to say “no,” is important for our mental health and well-being. But when should you say “no?” Here are five tips from the article “How to Say No to Others (and why you shouldn’t feel guilty)” by Erin Eatough, PhD
When You SHOULD Say No
- If you feel uncomfortable
- You feel guilty or obligated
- When you’re overloaded
- If the request crosses your personal boundaries
- If you are only saying yes to please someone.
What is Mom Guilt?
Bad Dad Jokes about People Pleasers
- I’m absolutely done being a people pleaser……..If everyone’s ok with that?
- Where are the “Yes-men” and People Pleasers made? The satisfactory!
- What’s one positive thing about voyeurs? They tend to be real peephole pleasers.
The People Pleaser Quiz
…from the article “Are You a People Pleaser? Take the Quiz and Cure Yourself!” by Eli Davidson
Is it hard for you to set and keep healthy boundaries?
Do you think that you will be abandoned or punished if you do or say the wrong thing?
Do you tolerate behaviors that don’t work for you to ‘keep the peace’ or get ahead?
Do you say yes when you want to say no?
Do you do things you regret later, so someone will have a better opinion of you?
If you answered yes to more than 1 of these questions…
You are a People Pleaser!
Click here for tips on curing yourself.
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You can do anything. But you can’t do everything.
Katie Linsky Shaw, Photographer, Photojournalist
Youth Mental Health Crisis – An ongoing photography and story-telling project